Many women and their partners are usually concerned for the well-being of their unborn baby/babies, thinking that sexual intercourse (sex) may cause injury in some way. However, this is not the case, and it is normally quite safe to continue making love while pregnant. In the womb, your baby floats in amniotic fluid, and the membrane that holds the fluid, your uterus muscles, and pelvis bone all work together to protect your baby. Many problems leading to miscarriage are usually associated with genetic problems, and not something you do such as sexual intercourse.
Not In The Mood?
Actually, women with a normal pregnancy can enjoy intercourse with their partner as often as they want, though pregnancy may change the desire for sex. Pregnancy often results in a mixture of emotions, so you may feel happy and excited at times, or depressed and unattractive at others. Your partner, on the other hand, may feel protective toward you and your baby, or jealous of the growing baby. Such feelings are normal, and can affect the desire for intercourse.
What is important is that you talk openly with your partner about your feelings. The amount of sex you have may change from month to month for the duration of the pregnancy, depending on your physical well-being, fatigue, changes in hormones, or general sexual interest. Whatever your feelings may be, simply talk to your partner. If they don’t understand, especially if you are not interested, talk to your doctor or nurse about it.
A Comfortable Position
Now that you know that sex is not harmful to your baby, you should consider the positions you use, since some may become uncomfortable later in pregnancy. Positions that require lying on your side or on your hands and knees are generally more comfortable, though you may need to research further or create your own to find what is most comfortable you. You should also avoid sexual activities that may lead to an infection.
When Having Sex During Pregnancy Can Be Dangerous…
It is not safe to continue sexual intercourse if:
- your waters have broken
- gone into premature labor
- or have had some spotting or bleeding
When the water breaks, your child is no longer protected. This means that you should stop having intercourse until birth. Any spotting or contractions arising from stimulation during intercourse should be checked by a doctor or midwife before resuming intercourse again.
Orgasm cannot start labor, but prostaglandins in semen are known to trigger contractions when you are due. Some midwives even recommend intercourse to bring on labor.
While intercourse will not harm your baby in any way, you may find that your baby moves around a bit after orgasm. This should not worry you, as your baby is simply reacting to your increased heart rate. He/she is not aware of what is happening and will not even feel the slightest discomfort.
If you are ever worried about your situation, then never hesitate to get a hold of your OBGYN, doctor, or physician to discuss your concerns.
Dr. Torbati is an OB/GYN in Tarzana with his own private practice servicing nearby residents and surrounding cities including Reseda, Northridge, and Encino. Dr. Torbati performs family planning services, ultrasound with 3D imaging, childbirth, mammogram and cancer screening, and other obstetrics and gynecology practices.