Hot Question: Should I Find Out My Baby’s Sex or Not?

should-i-find-out-my-babys-sexDuring pregnancy, it’s very common for soon to be mother & father to ask at some point: should we decide to find out our baby’s sex or wait until the baby is delivered (in order to be surprised)? In fact, it’s the second most common question asked in the pregnancy world. The first being, “when is your baby due?”

For one, it’s a very subjective question that both parties should sit down and discuss together what the pros and cons will be.

Some Advice for You on Waiting or Not

To help you decide on whether or not you should wait, let me offer you some advice on what to expect.

Most often, soon to be mothers will develop a bond with their child while the child is inside the womb and developing. Mothers generally form a bond that begins once the sex is determined. If you already have children, then knowing the sex gives you a topic of discussion to the siblings on how their new sister or brother will be welcomed into the family soon. Each small kick and movement becomes much more special when the sex is determined. Finding out that you’re having a boy or girl helps you begin forming a bond with your child before they are even born.

Mothers who choose not to know the sex often will not experience this bond. However, for first time pregnancies it may not make any difference.

Is It Worth the Wait?

Again, whether you decide to wait or not – the decision is entirely up to you. Most parents find the entire pregnancy 9-month process exciting whether they choose to wait or not. Once the baby is born, of course both parents will say it was “worth the wait”, however you may have slight regret by not finding out sooner, which tends to be the case in those who have had multiple pregnancies.

Those who decide to wait often find it very tough not giving in at any moment to determine the sex, however it makes it seem that much more special when the baby is finally delivered. Also, those who decide on waiting often have a lot of conversation with friends and family on the outcome of the sex. Some families will even place bets or have games as a result of waiting.

Final Note

Whether you wait or not, pregnancy is exciting either way and your decision will not be something you go back in time and wish you had done otherwise. Either choice will result in a lot of happiness for both sides and well, if you decide to wait for your first pregnancy, then you could choose not to wait on your 2nd pregnancy (if you decide on having a sibling for your child) and get the best of both worlds. And by the 3rd child, you’ll know exactly what you’ll want to do.

Dr. Torbati is a obstetrician in Tarzana, serving nearby areas including Encino, Woodland Hills, Van Nuys, and more with pregnancy and obstetrics for women. For more information, please visit our website or call us @ (818) 344-0300.

Pregnancy 101 – Understanding Changes that May Occur

understanding bodily changes during pregnancyPregnancy will induce a number of different changes to your body – and many new mother-to-bes often become confused or worried upon interpreting certain signals or changes. Understanding these bodily changes will ease your mind and help you remain calm. Dr. Torbati offers his valuable insight on what you should expect as a pregnant mother.

Common Pregnancy Changes to the Body

Intensified Food Cravings

This is probably the most commonly experienced bodily change any pregnant woman will face. And researchers have yet to figure out the exact reason why, but theories do exist. Keep in mind, it’s not a bad thing either – so as long as you are keeping a sustainable diet rich with vitamins and minerals.

  • Progesterone, a hormone released during pregnancy, causes both cravings and aversions.
  • Nutrient deficiency will cause women to seek out foods (often comfort/junk foods) that contain the nutrients they lack.

Researchers haven’t been able to pinpoint a cause but having either intensified food cravings OR aversions is one of the most common bodily changes pregnant women experience.

Leg Cramps

Often occurring at nighttime, leg cramps can really sour your mood and make you feel as if something horrible is going on. This is actually a common phenomenon experienced and doctors haven’t been able to pinpoint the exact cause but there are a few theories:

  • The extra weight from carrying your child all day puts extra pressure on your legs and by nighttime your legs are fatigued.
  • Calcium and magnesium deficiencies may be a possible cause.
  • Pressure from an enlarged uterus on pelvic blood vessels may also be a cause.

I’m constantly experiencing heartburn.

During pregnancy a specific hormone is released to help relax and loosen certain muscles such as the uterus – it’s a natural response. Unfortunately, this hormone also relaxes the hiatal valve which is what keeps the gastric acid from leaving your stomach.

Constant Urination

Pregnant women have an increased blood volume to make sure the child is well nourished. The kidney must process all of the extra blood flow, which inevitably ends up in your bladder – hence why you have frequent urination. Further down the road into your pregnancy, your uterus will enlarge and this puts pressure on the bladder, causing more frequent urination. Don’t forget to stay hydrated!


Increased levels of the hormone progesterone relax smooth muscles that slow down the digestive tract. An enlarged uterus may also put extra pressure on the large intestine limiting movement. Progesterone has the tendency to affect many different parts of the body.

Numbness of Hands

Pregnant women may suffer from mild swelling of the hands and as a result, may experience a slight numbness sensation. The reason is because the swelling puts pressure on the median nerve which is what controls feeling in our hands. This is usually experienced in the 2nd and 3rd trimesters.


Pregnancy is often hard on the body, but remember that it is all a normal process that is temporary. After the baby has been born, symptoms commonly subside and disappear on their own.

If you ever feel extremely worried or concerned over a symptom, then it is best to see your obstetrics doctor to make doubly sure that your pregnancy is on the right track – plus to keep your mind at ease.